By no means am I saying that I have not been on the other side, where I passed judgement on other people. Nor do I believe that I am fully innocent when it comes to this matter. Sadly I think it has been written into our human nature and we find that to be okay. I believe that society as a whole has painted a picture of how we should live and instead of standing up for what we think we should be doing because its better for us, we conform.
Personally I have lived my life completely backwards compared to society and a lot of my friends. I had my first daughter at 21,my second at 24 and now I am pregnant with my third. I will deliver her at the age of 27. I'm not married or engaged. I moved in with my boyfriend after only being with him for about 10 or 11 months. For a long time I was ashamed of getting pregnant so early.I had not finished college, I still lived at home and had absolutely no idea what the real world was like. People judged me. I even had someone tell me to get an abortion because I was living life backwards. They said I would never be able to find a man because I had "baggage". Call it naive but guess what, I believed it. I believed that I was wrong and that I would never get married or find someone who wanted to be with me cause I already had a daughter by another man. Unless you have lived that you have no idea how much that knocks a person down. What made that person think it was okay to say that to someone else. The next almost two years I believed that I was not good enough for anyone because I had a daughter out of wedlock.
I met Adam and he changed my way of thinking. This is a man who was severely overweight most of his life, but that never seemed to bother him. I will never forget the day someone compared their weight to Adam's, saying things about his stomach and how it hangs. How it could touch the floor when he bent over. I saw red that day. All I wanted to do was tell this also overweight piece of crap off. Adam stopped me and said "Babe, why let it bother you? Who cares, life goes on." At this point in time Adam had lost over 100 pounds, yes 100. I was so proud of him! All I wanted to do was knock that guys head off because it was like the pot calling the kettle black. Except he was talking to my boyfriend and there was no way he was going to say something like that to him. In my eyes if you cant look in the mirror and say I'm perfect you have no business throwing stones a glass houses.
With bullying being the biggest thing lately you would think that people would change their way of thinking. Actually think before they say things (this is also something I need to work on). Everyone has a story. You have no idea what that story is, your assumptions aren't fact so don't be a fool in thinking so. Sometimes there are actual reasons behind things. Like that girl who you say puts on too much makeup may be covering up a bruise on her face given to her by her husband/boyfriend. The kid that has on nasty clothes,maybe he cant afford more. The mother working 3 jobs and you think is irresponsible because she barley sees her child, yeah she may be working to make a better life for herself and her children. Or lets try this one. The girl who you say puts on too much makeup and takes to many pictures.....maybe, just maybe that makes her feel good about herself. Maybe people like you have been tearing her down and that's her way of building up self-esteem.
How about you stop writing someone else's story with your nasty opinions and nonsense and worry about yourself. I can guarantee you can use the negative energy being put out into the world and make it productive some how. Just try it, what the worst that could happen????
XOXOXO
Liz
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